sex and commitment

Why is it that some of us find it difficult to be committed when in a relationship?but yet,still have the urge for lust. Some get into relationships for ulterior motives such as sex and find it difficult to commit. Is it because we are honest to ourselves?that we are going to stay away because we cannot commit. Why not have a one night stand if it was just for sex. But we wouldn't. ?It's because we are afraid that someone might find out and tell others or that the person you are planning to meet could end up blackmailing you. But that is not the real reason. why are we so afraid is because that is not us. we are scared that people will judge us. that the image you had could be ruined. does this mean we are going to be out of sex just because we cannot commit?and why is that people in relationships can only have sex?and even worse.will the population of virgins increase because of this?think about it.it might all seem unfair. But it would be much more harmful when people start to think you are a disgrace. So why not let the urges to rest and try to make our lives better. sex is just like hunger. you eat and you get hungry again,this endless cycle continues.just like that the urge for sex comes and goes.so maybe we should think twice before our next one night stand.its better than the public humiliation and when you have to live with the guilt. family and friends wont approve what you are doing. so you keep doing it secretly.one day you could end up like total train wreck. so why keep doing it when you can save yourself now.